A while back I was thinking about how all the moms I know are different in many ways – be it their parenting style, or whether they go to work, stay at home, or work from home. Some have one little person, while others have three or four. Some of our babies began their journey inside us learning the sound of our heartbeat, whilst some began in another only to meet us later and hold our hearts forever. Whatever the differences in how we became moms, how we parent… Being a mom, plus ALL that comes with it, is what we all have in common.
And that’s how I came up with the idea for this feature – a short interview with regular moms like you and I (short, because for moms the time struggle is real yo!). Here we’ll get to “meet” different mommies, and find out a little about them.
This week we meet mommy blogger Venean. We haven’t had a chance to meet yet, but we’ve been following each other’s blogs for a while now, and it’s lovely featuring her here today.
1. Please tell us a little – or a lot (we like details) – about yourself?
So weird to talk about myself; when Charlene asked me if I would like to be featured, I was first flattered and then scared. How do people write about themselves, I thought? Okay, so I am a mom. That word defines a lot of things about me, but is not completely inclusive. I work a full time job, am a wife to a gamer husband. My two blessings that make me a mother are Emilie who has just turned 11, and Daniel my 11 month old baby. When I am not moming, working and wife-ing I try to Vee. By this I mean just be a person without – I do this by blogging about all the things I am to maintain my reflective-ness. I watch a lot of series and read too much. I am pretty outgoing, although in winter time I hibernate. A LOT.
2. What’s the one thing you find most challenging about being a working /
stay at home mom?
This is a no-brainer for me. BALANCE! Finding a balance is so hard – and then when you find your groove, Murphy throws extra work at you, a function, a sickness, or a sick child, and you have to start finding that balance from scratch again. Also just carving out time for me and things that I like doing for myself. It’s sometimes so difficult to make time for you when everyone else’s needs seem so much more important. They aren’t… But then to remember that.
3. We all know there are challenging moments – moments which call for chocolate, or wine (or both), to soothe those mommy nerves… Forgetting all that though, what is your absolute favourite thing about being a mom?
Living my life over. Seeing things through the eyes of my children, when they see things for the very first time. It’s amazing, and such a blessing.
4. From the experience you’ve gained since becoming a parent, what is a pretty cool piece of advice you would give to other moms?
Forgive yourself! I have spent so much time beating myself up for not being good enough, or not doing enough, when in actual fact the only one expecting me to be a superhero mom was me (and my kids think I am a superhero – but according to their standards, not mine).
5. Share with us one of the funniest moments you’ve had since becoming a mom.
Funny mom moments are so difficult because most of them are only funny afterward! And honestly so embarrassing. But I am at a stage in my life when I really do enjoy my children whether it be from the know-it-all preteen Emilie, or from my newly discovering toddler. Ian and I are always laughing at things they are discovering and doing. We try to be really relaxed.
6. Please tell us where we can find you online
Blog: In The Meantime
Thank you Venean for giving us a glimpse into your life as a mom. 🙂