Category: Mommy musings

Meet the Mommy – Prakashnie

A while back I was thinking about how all the moms I know are different in many ways – be it their parenting style, or whether they go to work, stay at home, or work from home. Some have one little person, while others have three or four. Some of our babies began their journey inside us learning the sound of our heartbeat, whilst some began in another only to meet us later and hold our hearts forever. Whatever the differences in how we became moms, how we parent… Being a mom, plus ALL that comes with it, is what we all have in common.

And that’s how I came up with the idea for this feature – an interview with regular moms like you and I. Here we’ll get to “meet” different mommies, and find out a little about them.

Today we meet Prakashnie, a good friend, and a great mommy whom I’ve known for just over twenty years.

1. Please tell us a little – or a lot (we like details) – about yourself?

Wow, I haven’t been asked about myself in over 5 years… lol. From the minute everyone found out I was pregnant with my first child they always ask about the kids. Even the guard at school greets Kian with a big, loud “HELLO MR K, HOW ARE YOU TODAY AND HOW ARE YOUR BABY SISTERS”, then I get a soft barely audible “Morning Madam”. I feel like my only identity outside of the work environment is that I am a mom! Okay, so I am a 35 year old working mom with 3 beautiful kids, a 5 year old boy and twin 17 month old girls. I love travelling and spending quality time with my family when I am not feeding my shopping addiction. 🙂

Meet Mommy - Prakashnie

2. What’s the one thing you find most challenging about being a working / stay at home mom?

My kids are too little at the moment but I am sure the day will come when I have to miss something because I am a working mom…. thankfully that day hasn’t arrived yet. The twins and I even attended Kian’s grandparents picnic cause it looked like so much fun and we didn’t want to miss out.

3. We all know there are challenging moments – moments which call for chocolate, or wine (or both), to soothe those mommy nerves… Forgetting all that though, what is your absolute favourite thing about being a mom?

My absolute favourite thing about being a mom is knowing that I have been blessed with 3 precious souls who feel that I am the most important person in their lives. My favourite part of the day is arriving home to 3 little faces pushed up against the gate (because they heard the garage door opening) screaming “MUMMY” with the biggest smiles all rushing over to give me hugs and kisses, all piling on my lap at the same time almost dropping me over with excitement. My favourite thing about being a mom is being called mom. 🙂

Meet Mommy - family

4. From the experience you’ve gained since becoming a parent, what is a pretty cool piece of advice you would give to other moms?

My one piece of advice would be never wake a sleeping baby… ever!

5. Share with us one of the funniest moments you’ve had since becoming a mom.

Oh my word, there are so many. When I told Kiasha she’s my good girl (because she ate her meal all by herself) and she said “I know” without even batting an eye, or when I told Kianna she’s my sweetie pie and she replied “No, I’m cutie pie”. At the tender age of 1 when the random words are turning into really cute sentences… it just melts my heart.

Meet Mommy - twincess

Thank you Prakashnie, for giving us a glimpse into your life as a mommy. ❤

Meet the mommy – Thuraisha

A while back I was thinking about how all the moms I know are different in many ways – be it their parenting style, or whether they go to work, stay at home, or work from home. Some have one little person, while others have three or four. Some of our babies began their journey inside us learning the sound of our heartbeat, whilst some began in another only to meet us later and hold our hearts forever.

Whatever the differences in how we became moms, how we parent… Being a mom, plus ALL that comes with it, is what we all have in common.

And that’s how I came up with the idea for this feature – an interview with regular moms like you and I. Here we’ll get to “meet” different mommies, and find out a little about them.

Today we meet Thuraisha. The two of us have known each other since we were smaller than our girls are now. It was fun hearing about her life as a mom, on the other end of the world. 🙂

1. Please tell us a little – or a lot (we like details) – about yourself?

I am a South African born Londoner living in the UK for going on 11 years. I am a working mum and am currently nearing the end of an 12 month Maternity period. I have 2 kids and hubby (but I have to admit it sometimes feels like 3 kids). I work hard to maintain a work life balance and ensure my kids have as much time with me as possible. Currently my days are filled with nappy changes, feeds, school runs and homework… not forgetting housework.

Meet the mommy - Thuraisha family


2. What’s the one thing you find most challenging thing about being a working / stay at home mom?

The most challenging thing as a working mum is trying to keep on top of everything, school runs, kids homework , dinners, bath time… etc. Making sure there is a family and worktime balance is a must.


3. We all know there are challenging moments – moments which call for chocolate, or wine (or both) to soothe those mommy nerves… Forgetting all that though, what is your absolute favourite thing about being a mom?

My absolute favourite thing is being called Mama. The look on their faces when the kids see you… be it after a fall or just after school or when they see you when they wake up in the mornings.

 

Meet mommy - T kids

4. From the experience you’ve gained since becoming a parent, what is a pretty cool piece of advice you would give to other moms? 

Always go with your gut.. your mummy instincts is always right!!! There is never a wrong way to parent do what works for you and your children within reason of course.


5. Share with us one of the funniest moments you’ve had since becoming a mom.

My funniest moment will be: a group of us were travelling to Orlando Disney a few years back. we had an early morning flight so it meant leaving home quite early. we had 3 kids aged 4 and under within our group which meant rollcall needed to be done and at least one pair of eyes on the kids at all time.

So as we were making our way around the airport looking for breakfast I am suddenly frantically looking for my daughter and was just about to ask the group if they had seen her. All the while Tayhara is in my arms!!! Safe to say I was relieved after a moment of panic, but I had a good laugh about it then.

Thank you Thuraisha, for giving us a glimpse into your life as a mom. ❤

Motherhood – challenging, terrifying, exhausting… and a privilege I’m eternally grateful for

Motherhood - Zee and I

It’s hard to believe that it’s been almost eight years since that night… I’d showered, waddled back into the bedroom, gotten into cozy pjs, and penguin rolled onto the bed. A little while later (around 9pm) I told Shawn I was pretty sure I’d just wee’d myself! Turns out that was my water breaking, four weeks earlier than expected. 😯

A quick call to my mom, because you know, that’s what you do when you don’t know what to do, and we were off to the hospital as she advised. We walked in, smiling and giggling, nervous and excited that we were going to be parents almost a month sooner than we’d thought.

Embrace - bump 8 months

I remember dismissing the wheelchair I was offered as we walked in, and laughing a few minutes later when the sister (looking at the monitor) told me that I’d just had a contraction. I was like, why do people make such a fuss – contractions aren’t that bad, this is going to be a breeze. I was pretty pleased with myself for deciding right at the beginning of my pregnancy that I wanted a natural birth, and no drugs. 

A few hours in though, and I was like, WHAT IN THE WORLD IS HAPPENING??? I was alone, as they’d told Shawn to go home and get some rest, because the baby would probably only come by midday the next day. They said I should rest in my room, but I was feeling pain and discomfort like never before in my life, and I was pacing the hall in that ward. I don’t know if the hospital gown had me exposed, and I didn’t care. They did another check, and things were progressing faster than they’d predicted!

Its almost as if my mom, and my friend Jules (who, like my parents, was living two hours away at the time) both sensed this would happen, because instead of coming through the next morning, my parents and my brother decided to drive to the hospital then, as did Jules. They even passed each other on the road, and arrived there at the same time.

It was around midnight, and mom and Jules found me sitting in a bathtub, attempting to – unsuccessfully – soak away some of the pain. After accepting that the bath wasn’t helping, it was back to pacing – this time with great company, complete with comforting back rubs and assurances of “you’re doing great” – until I was taken to the delivery room. Shawn, Mommy, and Jules took shifts in twos at my bedside.

Seven hours after my water broke, there she was – the tiniest, most perfect being I’d ever set my eyes on. I had only just met her, and my heart was hers. In that instant, the last few hours of pain, tears, and screams were forgotten. And all that mattered was that beautiful baby in my arms.

Motherhood - Zee day one

I had loved her from the moment I found out she existed. I fell in love even more, the first time we confirmed her presence at the gynecologist appointment, and we saw the tiny bean on the screen and heard that strong heartbeat. As my belly grew, so did my love for her. And now, seeing her right in front of me, holding her in my arms, I felt a surge of emotions I’d never experienced before. A love entirely different from anything I’d ever felt.

Motherhood - mitten

Motherhood, to me, is the most wonderful adventure you could ever embark on – there’s something to learn almost everyday, its challenging, terrifying some days, exhausting most days, and more than all that it’s BEAUTIFUL, and completely fulfilling. From the second I looked at that little face, something… or maybe, everything inside me changed. I never knew I could protect so fiercely, be so selfless, cry so much at the mere sight of my three year old stepping onto a stage for the first time. Vanity went out the window – actually being in photos with my little person (something she and I would look at, and treasure together years later), became more important than how bad of a hair day I was having, or how chubby my face looked.

Motherhood - mommy and Zee

Motherhood - mommy and Zee

The start of it all – labour, delivery, and those first nights alone in hospital – is ten times more terrifying. Having the ones closest to me there to share in the time this life-changing adventure began (and there for me ever since), added to just how special it was, and added a sense of calm. Not everyone has that kind of support – a loving husband by your side while you scream like a banshee, and keep throwing off the sheet he repeatedly covers you with, so as to provide you with some semblance of dignity. Parents, siblings, friends, willing to drive two hours in the dark of night just to be with you, and remind you that you’re so loved, and that you’re doing a great job. A mom, who due to an unexpected trauma right after your baby is born (if you missed the post, you can read it here), has to hold your heavy self and help you walk to the bathroom, and then bathe you as well. All this support, which to be honest, I hadn’t even realised I would so greatly need.

Motherhood - Zee day one

I am infinitely grateful for this privilege of being a mom. And I will always be thankful for all the care and support I was fortunate enough to receive. I say fortunate because as I mentioned before, there are those who don’t have this support. It is because of this reality that Cape Town Embrace is asking women around South Africa to spend an hour with new moms at their local public hospitals on 14 May, to offer support and encouragement as they set out on this new journey of motherhood. Thinking back to that time almost eight years ago, I can say with certainty that it is definitely needed at this huge time in one’s life, and it IS appreciated. If you’d like to get involved, you can find out more here.

Cape Town Embrace

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